How do we select a Surrogate Mother?
a) The Surrogate Mother should have a quality of understanding the whole process of surrogacy practically. She must know that the purpose behind this process of surrogacy is to provide infertile couple or individual, a chance of becoming parents.
b) The Surrogate Mother should be aware of the fact that even though surrogacy looks like a typical surrogacy it is much more complicated and involves various ethical, emotional and legal issues.
c) The Surrogate Mother also needs to understand that there will be no genetic link between her and the child which she will carry during the term of surrogacy.
d) The Surrogate must visibly understand that surrogacy is very time consuming process which may exceed the period promised by the medical practitioners or the agency. The surrogate should be independent and should have an alternative souse of income apart from the compensation offered to her by the Intending parents.
e) The surrogate should realise that apart from the labour pains she has to go through a lot of discomfort during the period of pregnancy which may occur because of the medication, treatments and injections.
f) Informed consent of the partner/spouse of the Surrogate Mother is most important for a successful surrogacy.
g) The decision to become a Surrogate Mother should be independent and free from coercion, force or compulsion.
h) The surrogate mother must be aware of the fact that there are high chances that she may have to conceiving more than one baby during the process of surrogacy, and in such an event, selective reduction would be a normal process. Multiples are very common in the process of surrogacy; and the Surrogate should accept these terms.
i) It is preferable that the surrogate has had prior proven pregnancies. While selecting a surrogate this would only enhance her chances to become a Surrogate Mother, as she has proved her capacity as a child bearer already.
j) The Surrogate is free from any restrictions to claim compensation from the Intending Parents for the services she will be offering; provided all such remuneration has been accepted by the Intending Parents or individual.
k) The Surrogate Mother should also understand that the child she will be carrying is going to part away from her and she should be capable enough to face all hardship she might go through during that process. This process the Surrogate will require support of her family, expert counsellors and psychologists; moreover hardships of this process can also be reduced if the Surrogate Mother has already got children to whom she can return back, after handing over the child to the Intended Parents.
l) There exists a possibility that the surrogate mother might never be able to conceive again after undergoing surrogacy. It is most advisable that the surrogate mother has already given birth to children, so that she would not feel exploited in case the surrogacy leaves behind a situation where she can never bear a child again.
m) The Surrogate Mother should be strong enough to handle all the pain and suffering which she might acquire due to surrogacy.